Sometimes

Sometimes you just have to stop and regroup. That is what has been going on. I have had to relocate with family. I needed a break from the insanity that was in Wichita Falls and surrounding areas. There wasn't much of a choice in the matter.

I had to take a break for my own health. I recently had pronater syndrome, cubital tunnel, and carpal tunnel in my non dominant arm. It meant my left arm had to be butchered with three different surgeries on one arm. What is sad is that arm was my favorite arm. Now it has three major scars on it.

So while I am healing, I am chilling out and reading. I have been catching up on stuff concerning adoption, adoptee rights, and other adoption reform issues. I have also been doing research on other topics concerning parental rights and parental alienation. Since my ex husband and his darling wife have been hitting both of my blogs, I figured that I would include lots of good information concerning that too.

Of course the most interesting part of the last year is that Katrina Carlisle is no longer with St. Elizabeth Coleman. Maybe now, adoptees and their families can finally get a break.

China In Adoption News Again

I have known for years that the adoption industry is a huge market. Each and every country has had its issues with corruption. China has popped up again. As I read all three of the articles in the news, none of the articles mention an adoption agency who was involved in these cases. The investigation isn't complete until they have checked out who they are. These agencies need to be held accountable because they created a marketable situation where natural families could be destroyed and corrupted. I realize those are harsh words for adoptive parents. Every child deserves to raised and loved in their natural families first. If they don't have any family to raise or support them, then and only then should they be placed for adoption. There are just too many cases of corruption, baby selling, and baby trafficking. If it is just one case, that is one case too many.

Indiana Adoptee Rights News

Adoptee rights in Indiana has hit an impasse again this year. Although I am not actively involved in the movement right now due to my own personal life, I still pay attention to adoptee rights in any shape or form. Will I see adoptee rights change in Indiana soon or in my lifetime? I don't think so because the state is so religiously based. They freak out over any potential increase in abortions.

Adult adoptees point blank deserve equal access to their original birth certificates. I have noticed in the news that adoptees in several states are facing many new bills being presented.

New York has been pushing a bill called the Adoptee Bill of Rights. Along with the Adoptee Rights Demonstration and Bastard Nation, I believe that adoptees deserve equal access to their original birth certificates. I understand the thinking behind this bill. We are still effectively giving birth parents a right that they do not have. Privacy does not exist any longer due to technological advances such as the internet. Everything is public knowledge. If a child is not adopted, then the birth parent does not have any privacy. The original birth certificate is still intact and available to the adoptee. The most basic thought that I have with this is that we all biologically know who our parents are because we have their genetics. So how we actually be kept away and private from each other? Biological parents in normal intact families do not have privacy from each other because they know who they are. When a birth parent relinquishes their rights, they have no further rights to their children placed for adoption. All rights are terminated. If they are given additional rights, this opens the door for parents to fight the termination of their rights.

Did You See Oprah and Her New Sister?

I saw part of it. I was a little frustrated because I felt that they left her in the lurch. They could have expanded it more. Oprah could have concentrated on the issues for the adoptee, her sister. Its always interesting to see reunions. At least this time, the adoptive parents were not mentioned. I felt that the show was a little self centered. They made it about Oprah and her mother.

I think forcing her mother out of the closet as she did was probably not very helpful. The show could have reflected more on the laws in this country instead of Oprah's personal stance on her public personality.

Adoptees are not out to ruin families but find their connection in the world. Its a shame that Oprah did not do more for adoptees and their families.

Oklahoma Adoption Task Force

A couple of years ago, a couple of adoption agencies and attorneys got into trouble over their business practices with adoptive parents. Well at that time, an adoption task force was established to address changes needed in the adoption system in Oklahoma. Today there was an article in the Oklahoman about this task force. They are wanting to know how many adoptions occur in Oklahoma. They are also wanting to know who should receive this information.

What about the adoptees in this state? Why isn't the rights of those adoptees being restored to them? Why are they just concentrating on the number of adoptions? I agree that they need to be concentrating on the fee structures of adoption agencies and attorneys but lets not forget those of us who are adopted. We need our rights restored to us.

We are your sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews. We are also your friends and coworkers. We are also your veterans. It is time to restore our right to access documents that the state of Oklahoma has on us. Please Oklahoma state legislators consider this as well.

India Courts Rule Against an Adoptee

When an adoptee or an adoptees group takes a step out, I like to give them some love to show that I appreciate their hard work. It is not easy to do so. It takes strength, courage, and conviction to be able to do so. When they do it in a public forum like a court room, I jump and hollar for them. If it is done in a foreign country, I am amazed and proud all in one breath.

In the news, this story came out. Dohle, a German adoptee with Indian descent, did such a courageous thing. He went to a high court and then went to an appeals court. He stood up for what he believed in. I wish I had the time, money and tenacity to do this very thing.

Although it did not turn out as he wanted, he still did a brave thing. Kudos for trying out there in India. Keep trying and never give up.

Back To School

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