Summertime Fun

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The end of summer is drawing close. Many schools have already started in this area. I would love to be able to take my daughters on a dream vacation. I have always wanted to visit Branson. I thought Branson was romantic and fun during the wintertime. I know that it would be an absolute blast during the summer time, especially for my daughters. I would love to stay at either Hilton Promenade at Branson Landing or Hilton Branson Convention Center Hotel. They are located in the middle of all the great fun in Branson. They have Silver Dollar City, the Ozarks, and many country music concerts all throughout the year. The end of summer brings all of these fun events into one quick weekend package. With these great events, Branson located in Ozarks where beautiful mountains and lake country are combined. This beauty is one of America’s finest scenes. You are truly in the middle of God’s country. I remember visiting the Ozarks briefly when I was a teenager on her way home from her grandparent’s home. I have always wanted to visit again. I thought it was beautiful then. I would like to show my daughters what mountains and lakes really are. So if you are looking for a great holiday getaway, consider Branson.

Oklahoma Adoption Task Force

A couple of years ago, a couple of adoption agencies and attorneys got into trouble over their business practices with adoptive parents. Well at that time, an adoption task force was established to address changes needed in the adoption system in Oklahoma. Today there was an article in the Oklahoman about this task force. They are wanting to know how many adoptions occur in Oklahoma. They are also wanting to know who should receive this information.

What about the adoptees in this state? Why isn't the rights of those adoptees being restored to them? Why are they just concentrating on the number of adoptions? I agree that they need to be concentrating on the fee structures of adoption agencies and attorneys but lets not forget those of us who are adopted. We need our rights restored to us.

We are your sons, daughters, mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, nieces and nephews. We are also your friends and coworkers. We are also your veterans. It is time to restore our right to access documents that the state of Oklahoma has on us. Please Oklahoma state legislators consider this as well.

Visiting Branson in the Summer

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I worked for a veterinarian in Bartlesville, Oklahoma many years ago. He and his family often went to Branson. I have often wanted to visit that area again because of the Ozark Mountains. The atmosphere in Branson is focused solely on families. That was one of the reasons why I wanted to also visit Branson. I would love to visit Ripley’s Believe It or Not. I want to see the Ozark Mountains again. I would also love to see much of the music festivals that they have in Branson.









I would also love to stay at the Hilton Branson Convention Center Hotel. The hotel is beautiful. It is located on Lake Taneycomo which looks to be very peaceful and beautiful. I love country living and vacations. I do not get to do them that often but I would most love it to be able to stay there or at the Hilton Promenade at Branson Landing. Last year these two hotels brought in culinary artists to teach the common folk how to cook an exciting meal. These hotels are close to many of the attractions in Branson. It would sure make for a comfortable and relaxing weekend that I could spend with my daughters.

India Courts Rule Against an Adoptee

When an adoptee or an adoptees group takes a step out, I like to give them some love to show that I appreciate their hard work. It is not easy to do so. It takes strength, courage, and conviction to be able to do so. When they do it in a public forum like a court room, I jump and hollar for them. If it is done in a foreign country, I am amazed and proud all in one breath.

In the news, this story came out. Dohle, a German adoptee with Indian descent, did such a courageous thing. He went to a high court and then went to an appeals court. He stood up for what he believed in. I wish I had the time, money and tenacity to do this very thing.

Although it did not turn out as he wanted, he still did a brave thing. Kudos for trying out there in India. Keep trying and never give up.

On Demand

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On Demand is a new and exciting idea that Charter has come out with. It is a very cool idea. How many times have you had to work late but wanted to be home to watch your favorite television show. I know that I loved Saving Grace, Hawthorne, Leverage, and many others. Sons of Anarchy will be returning to FX soon. I am anxiously awaiting the new season.



On Demand is not just about pay per view movies. You can visit the On Demand home page to find out the listings of shows in your area. It is about watching some of your favorite shows when you have time to watch them. It is about watching movies on your time, not on the network’s time. That is really great feature if your work schedule is sporadic. I know that I can not count on a set time to get off work. It is nice to know that this feature is available to customers. This product was created with the customer in mind. It is always about the customer and making sure that they are happy. They will stay with you if that is the case. You can also discover the best of Charter’s offers and giveaways when You will ‘Like’ their Facebook page as well.

Chilling Out

It has been close to a year since I was active in politics. For me, politics and its antics have taken a back seat. I was one of those that wrote the legislators faithfully every month. I had to finally quit because my personal life spiraled out of control.

I am learning to be chilled out. I wish honestly that I could get back into the adoption thing full force. I still have outside forces taken a forefront in my life. My job is the most important. I have to support not just myself, but my daughters, their father and his girlfriend. That does not make me a happy camper. I have to deal with a daughter that refuses to recognize any contribution at all that I have made in her life. She refuses to recognize the importance of her mother in her life. There are days that I have to fight to have her come visit me. It hurts. I had to threaten her with her father's potential of getting a contempt of court charge because she wanted to go to a rodeo where she would be ignored and allowed to roam wherever she wanted putting herself at risk for harm.

I spent my evening swimming with my boyfriend and his daughter. He came and got me and my girls. He cooked me an awesome dinner. He also bought me a couple packs of smokes. I get him alone on Sunday and Monday evening. I have to help him pack for his return trip to his job. It is hard to let someone so precious go every two weeks but my heart keeps growing more and more fond of him. He is really incredible so it is all worth the wait.

Back To School

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School is starting soon. My daughters will start school next week. One child is looking forward to it while the other does not want to start school in the same place. She wants a fresh new start where she does not have to deal with her situation on the home front. I do understand that one. Although I live in an area that does not offer Charter, I would love to see how their internet services work. I encourage others to check them out.



Charter has many contests and giveaways that have often thrilled me about their product. The current giveaway is the laptop-a-day giveaway. Charter is giving away 50 lap tops to two great schools in order to get into the spirit of going back to school. Be sure to nominate your favorite school. Students of all ages are in need of those laptops. What a great way to get great internet service! You can enter your school for a chance to win fifty of these fabulous lap tops. You can enter automatically by ordering their services and win a chance to win three hundred bucks. With school starting, we could all use that money. You can also check out other Charter offers by going to their Charter on Facebook.

Please Understand

Sadly my financial situation has forced me back into blogging for pay. I know that it is irritating and harsh. I have to support myself, my ex husband and his girlfriend. Yes it is sad but it is a sad fact of a corrupt judicial system in Wilbarger county. I will still continue to write about stuff regarding adoption, adoptees and their rights. I will have to through in a couple of ads every now and then to pay for my situation.

It is a way to supplement my income. Every aspect of my life has been under a microscope. I am no longer hiding. I will be writing now from a perspective of a potential birth parent as well as an adoptee. This is all due to an ex husband who is a control freak, alcoholic, abuser, and a cheater. He was angry that I was the fifth wife that left him. He is the serial marrying kind. He has not spent one day alone without a woman by his side since he was 19. I know that I was a fool. Better a fool than a lost soul.

A Southern Treat

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I have always wanted to go to Memphis, Tennessee. I love the romantic and humid aura of the south. I know that I live in Texas. It is the south but there is something about Tennessee with its mountains, music and history that I love. Books have been written about Memphis. It is the home of Elvis Presley. It is where his music started. Country Music is also a huge business up there as well. I love the beauty of the wild life of the state as well. The plant life is absolutely beautiful. It has that peace and serenity.




I was looking at the Memphis-savvy travel guide . I have to admit that I am intrigued by the possibility of traveling to Memphis for a delightful vacation for my daughters and I. As I looked over that website, I noticed that they were offering free trips and giveaways for Memphis. You can enter to win a trip package. I put in my information immediately. It would nice to win such a trip to such a wonderful place. I would love to do it as a family. If not, I can do it with my boyfriend and his daughter. That would be such great fun.

A Formal Notice

This is to give formal notice to Vicki that she must cease and desist. All emails, internet commentary, phone calls, and letters are now being forwarded to law enforcement. As noted on my personal blog , Musing Mother , Motherhood Deleted and others, evidence is being collected and being turned over. It is enough to alarm others. They have reported it to their law enforcement agencies.

For those that are getting this commentary, please let one of us know. Go ahead and publish them as they will be documented. I know that these comments are scary. Please do not spare our feelings as we are very aware of what is going on. She goes by the name of Blue Clue, CUB Mom, Candy Cane, and Indianna Friend. If you see this, please publish it and forward it to me, Musing Mother or Motherhood Deleted. We are working to resolve the issue.

My Girls

I find myself quietly listening to them talk. I don't respond like I used to. I have to be this way because if I don't, I will get defensive. Defensive is not a good thing. Fighting back from that posture has put me already behind. I understand that I must be proactive. That is why I keep every email and text message from my girls and their father. It is all documented proof of what is going on.

I have to deal with many sides to this. His mother blasts me in front of the girls. I can't get away from that. I have to deal with him playing mind games and lying. I have to deal with him breaking the judge's orders. I have to pay the price of all of it.

The whole situation is so unfair and corrupt that I do not even know where to begin to fight it. Since my email account was hacked through illegal means, I have learned to immediately delete any and every email that I might send. I have learned to quietly listen instead of responding in angry tones. I have learned to record phone calls despite it all.

I have been quietly continuing my battle despite what others believe that I have been conquered. I have not been. I will not give up on my daughters.

Back Again

I have not written since April. I had not realized that it had been that long. I have been busy in the battle of my life. I am on the losing end of it. One of the many hard lessons that I have learned through adoption is that corruption reigns supreme. No matter how hard you look into it, it just keeps getting deeper and deeper.

I see a great deal of adoptee bloggers these days. I have been reading them. One of my best friends, Musing Mother, wrote something, "Isn't It Ironic." This was a zinger that many adoptees are upset about.

I know that there are women who do not desire contact with the children they surrendered. I believe that there will be more of them as time goes by, and people see, hear and read some of the things that adopted adults have to say about them, or they realize how difficult and painful reunion can be. And, I am sure that there are some women who have, indeed, hidden this secret for almost a half a century. But, come on! Does anyone REALLY believe that they called the NCFA and whined to Chuck for protection? I don't think so.

I am not criticizing any thing that Musing Mother wrote. After having written about adoption and its effect on adoptees and their families for the last four years, I have developed an opinion. I am one of those adoptees whose first mother denied contact. I was hurt by the initial action on this. I was not given my original birth certificate because she denied contact. I also have reason to doubt what was said and done on my behalf. I think it even raised the hackles of an adoption attorney in Indiana. Just like my first mother was not given choices, neither was I. If I had been read the adoption file prior to contact, I would have changed the direction and had my first father contacted first. That way I could have been guaranteed her information. I would have been given access to my file. I could have made contact with her giving her the support and love that she needed to make the transition that I have made.

Hind sight is always 20/20. Looking back over my writings, maybe some of them would have scared her but I think not. I think it was her own actions at that time that gave her pause. She was cruel to my first father. Although I understand it, it is still not right to have denied me.

Four and half years later, I no longer feel so abandoned. I am one of the lucky ones in that I had a great adoptive family. I still do. My adoptive family is a group of female lionesses that protect each other. Every possible fear that I can imagine has been faced.

I am actually now okay with the fact that she doesn't want contact from me. I am not angry at her for it. I am not hurt any longer. It was her choice. I honestly believe that she did not realize what ramifications her choice did to me. If a person doesn't know any better, how can they really have any accountability in this mess called adoption?

One of the comments left behind by an anonymous adoptee as well as other adoptees is that they want the mothers to be accountable for their choices. Some of them should be but many others I disagree. I know too many women who didn't have a choice in the adoption of their child. I believe the sixties were extremely cruel to women. I think today society is still cruel to women and their children. I know because I experienced it.